Saturday, December 29, 2012

Indicators That You Should Let a Friendship Die....

We all have that one friend that we're never quite sure about. Every time you see them you wonder "do they actually want to be my friend or do they hate me?" How can you be sure?

You might want to consider ending a relationship if any of the following situations occur.

  • You extend an invitation for them to join you for an all-expense-paid steak dinner and they turn you down because they have a pack of balogne at home that is about to expire. They simply can't stand to let it go to waste.
  • You see your friend on the side of the road and ask them if they need a ride to where they're going. They refuse saying that they need the exercise......even though it's raining......and they're on crutches.
  • You invite them for an evening gathering on April 16 and they can't come...because they want to get a head start on next year's taxes.
  • You ask your friend if a dress makes you look fat and they reply "Fat is an understatement."
  • In the event that you and your friend are the last two survivors of the "Zombie Apocalypse", your friend prefers the company of the zombies to yours.
  • You organize a trip to see "The Hobbit" for you and your friends but when you get there, you realize that the showing is sold out. Your friends have their tickets already so they see it without you and you are forced to see...a kiddie movie. You feel so rejected and unloved that you blog about it. ;)

Have any of these things happened to you? Do you have more awkward situations to add to the list? Please comment or send your additions to me at Your addition will be posted in order to help others.


New Additions!

Submitted by Sharon Rose:
  • "When you are together, your friend's favorite topic is the weather and everyone's health.
  •  "Your friend consistently calls you by a different name because she can't recall your real name.
"I liked your post it was very imaginative. : )
My sister once made a list of things that you could talk about with people you just met. The list included asking, 'Have you ever cleaned out a sewer?', 'Where did you hide your grandmother's dentures?', and 'Have you ever been sky diving?'" -Sharon of "Sharon Rose Books"

Some smart-alec—I mean—my dear adopted brother Luke emailed me this comment:

"1 just to be ridiculous) if the ship has run aground it may be more
profitable to let it die rather than try to salvage it, thusly saving
your friend from the hefty cost of freeing his or her ship.

"If the friend ship fires its canons at you it could be a pirate ship
and not a friend ship, you may want to let it die.

"But I would say if its your friend's ship you should probably not let
it die i think the friend would appreciate it:)
....I apologize for my smartalikey comments I couldn't resist :D" -Luke of "Eternal Adventures"

Thank you so much for your emails! They make my life worth living, and my blog worth writing on. They are like candy to my soul. Keep them coming and if you like the posts, buy the author some chocolate!


Tuesday, December 25, 2012

Merry Christmas!!!

Merry Christmas, friends! :)

I hope you're all enjoying your presents, but remember what's behind our celebrations. It's the reason that we now have true joy and not just the temporary happiness that presents bring. Our earthly gifts will grow old but the Gift that Jesus gave us on the cross will never loose it's power!

Luke Chapter 2:1-20

 1 And it came to pass in those days, that there went out a decree from Caesar Augustus that all the world should be taxed.  2 (And this taxing was first made when Cyrenius was governor of Syria.) 3 And all went to be taxed, every one into his own city.  4 And Joseph also went up from Galilee, out of the city of Nazareth, into Judaea, unto the city of David, which is called Bethlehem; (because he was of the house and lineage of David:)  5 To be taxed with Mary his espoused wife, being great with child.  6 And so it was, that, while they were there, the days were accomplished that she should be delivered.  7 And she brought forth her firstborn son, and wrapped him in swaddling clothes, and laid him in a manger; because there was no room for them in the inn.  8 And there were in the same country shepherds abiding in the field, keeping watch over their flock by night. 9 And, lo, the angel of the Lord came upon them, and the glory of the Lord shone round about them: and they were sore afraid.  10 And the angel said unto them, Fear not: for, behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy, which shall be to all people.  11 For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Saviour, which is Christ the Lord.  12 And this shall be a sign unto you; Ye shall find the babe wrapped in swaddling clothes, lying in a manger.  13 And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God, and saying,  14 Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.  15 And it came to pass, as the angels were gone away from them into heaven, the shepherds said one to another, Let us now go even unto Bethlehem, and see this thing which is come to pass, which the Lord hath made known unto us.  16 And they came with haste, and found Mary, and Joseph, and the babe lying in a manger.  17 And when they had seen it, they made known abroad the saying which was told them concerning this child.  18 And all they that heard it wondered at those things which were told them by the shepherds.  19 But Mary kept all these things, and pondered them in her heart.  20 And the shepherds returned, glorifying and praising God for all the things that they had heard and seen, as it was told unto them.

Please read this with your family today, if you haven't already and talk about what that baby grew up to sacrifice for us.

Thank you and I wish you many Christmas blessings!!!

Friday, December 7, 2012

A True Friend

I've always had a deep and sincere longing for a close friend, a desire which I believe I share with all of humanity. People have a natural need for a deep bond which was built into us from the the time of creation.

Up until recently, I have always sought to maintain a best friend outside my family. I was willing to sacrifice whatever it took to keep that one friendship alive, often at the cost of other relationships. In the past I've given up my art, my blog, and even some of who I was to make other people happy. Sometimes I found myself disappointed or even betrayed by those same people I had given so much to and I was left feeling empty, lonely, and broken.

I never seemed to understand what I was going through at the time, or why my heart needed to feel agony, but usually after a while I could see I had learned many lessons. Even though I had often been told these things before, I never would have understood them so well as I do now without going through heartache and emotional pain. Pain is a very effective teacher.

So far, the pain of broken relationships has taught me:

  1. Absolutely nothing and no one should come before God. My only goal in life should be to obey and pursue a closer friendship with God. God loves and forgives, no matter what. He is the only true, perfect friend I will have in this earthly life.
  2. God is all I need. "My flesh and my heart faileth: but God is the strength of my heart, and my portion forever." -Psalm 73: 26
  3. God will never fail me, even though people will. I would never have chosen to have some of the most important friends in my life disappoint me, but God knew that experiencing loss was the best way to draw me closer to Him.
  4. God always knows what is best. I'm learning to trust that God will place the right people in my life and remove those who will pull me away from Him.
  5. I shouldn't change who I am for anyone but God. If the Lord is happy with who I am, I don't have to worry about changing myself just so that others will like me.
  6. Being open and honest about problems is best. If I truly value my friends and family, I should go straight to them with concerns and problems.
  7. I have nothing to fear. I pray that God will keep me from yielding to fear and protect me from those who will try to manipulate me when I'm afraid.
    "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." -Philippians 4:6-7
  8. Reach out and make new friends. No one earthly friend can supply all my needs. Even if they could I still need to reach out and learn how to serve all my brothers and sisters in this world.
  9. Love cannot be selfish. "Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things." -1 Corinthians 13:4-7
  10. Be humble, always admit when you are wrong, and be quick to apologize. Being quick to apologize shows people that you value your friends above your ego.
  11. Forgive others who wrong you and learn to except apologies that are never given. Forgiveness is one of the hardest things to bestow, especially if the person who wronged you never said "I'm sorry". Our sinful hearts cling to bitterness, but God can free anyone from the burden of unforgiveness.

I can't change the past and I wouldn't want to. The lessons I have learned have been invaluable.