Monday, October 1, 2012

The First Kiss: Why is It So Important to Save for Marriage?

The kiss is a beautiful symbol of love shared by a man and a woman. Everyone recognizes that it is something special, however, lot of Christians disagree on when it should be allowed. Humor me for a moment while I explain my view and why I hold it.

Do I believe that kissing before marriage is wrong? Well, yes and no. I feel that it would be wrong for me. When I was twelve-year-old girl, I prayed and made a vow to God that I would save my first kiss for my wedding. I told him I would not allow a man to touch me in any inappropriate way.

I have often been mocked and looked down upon for my strong convictions. The weird part is that I get judged more for having high standards than people with really low standards. I'm okay with that. It's worth it. If I ever get married, I will be able to look the love of my life in the eye and say "I waited for you. I saved my heart and my physical affection for you. You are my first true love." I hope that my husband will be able to do the same for me.

If a young woman holds convictions like these, it will probably be a turn-off to all the wrong sort of guys. I believe that if a man can't respect the convictions of a young woman, and demands more physical affection, he is in the relationship for the wrong reasons and is honestly not worth her time.

Don't get me wrong here...I don't think kissing is wrong for everyone. I look at it this way:
The Bible says lust is wrong, right? Jesus says in Matthew:

"Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:
But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman [or man] to lust after her [or him] hath committed adultery with her [or him] already in his heart."

Lust is a lot more serious than most people think it is. It's not just some little sin. It's something that has poisoned hearts and wrecked families. God takes a very serious view of it, to the point of equating it to the physical act of fornication. That's big.
If you think you can kiss someone without lusting after them, than you make that decision on your own. Maybe a harmless peck is fine for you, and is your way of
showing someone that their special to you. Only God can see what's in your mind, and your intentions are.

Whatever way you look at it, a kiss is different from most types of physical contact. You can hug a person of the same sex. Can you kiss a person of the same sex on the lips without people thinking there’s something wrong with you? Hopefully, the answer is no. Why? It would be taken as a sign of homosexual affection. Yikes!
The kiss has an obvious sexual connotation. It may not be on the same level with sex, but it is something deeply intimate.

Our culture tells us that “Hey, a kiss isn't a big deal!” Think about it. Our culture also tells us that promiscuous sex before (and sometime after) marriage is also fine. The world’s standards are already very low.
I’m not telling you what to believe and I am certainly not judging you. I’m just saying, be careful! The world is deceptive and sometimes moral compromise can seem a lot easier than standing up for your beliefs.

I am not a moral authority. In fact, don't listen to me! Read the Bible and form your own convictions.

Above all thing, Pray! Ask the Holy Spirit to guide and protect you and heed His promptings. If you follow where God is leading, you can't go wrong!